Expectations2012/11/12 - Author: Marco Neves - No Comments
Expectations – we create them, we set them, we break them, we are broken when they end up short.
Expectations are not a bad thing just by themselves. It’s what often come with the expectations that make life harder than it needs to be.
We create expectations that everything will work according with our plans and we not only start to plan exhaustively over the expected result as we also forget to look out for contingency plans.
It’s not really the expectations that bring pain into our lives. The pain only starts when we fail to realize that life is what happens while we make plans, when we fail to realize that our expectations are not the solid present over which we can build.
It’s a good thing to know what we want from life, but when we start to leave what is for what we expect, when we build our lives over what we hope will happen, that’s when we set ourselves for pain.
I’m not saying that you should not create expectations. Expectations are a normal part of live.
However, always check if the plans you are making are built over what you now have or over expectations of what can be, over wishful thinking – and if you find yourself planning over what you expect to happen, make also a different plan that do’t need that to happen – plan for a different route, even (or preferably) if it leads to the same final destination.