Groups and Rituals2012/11/17 - Author: Marco Neves - No Comments
Don’t do the rituals because of the group – join the group because of the rituals.
All groups have rituals.
Some groups smoke in some hidden place in the school playground, probably the same group that later smoke outside the bars, because inside is not allowed.
Other groups play football, wake up to exercise, run for hours, talk about the game day in day out, think about the game all day long, go to the bed imagining plays and dream with balls.
Some groups join once a week for a few games of chess, others for dinner and drinks.
Groups and rituals are deeply interconnected – every group have its own rituals, and rituals are easier to create and keep with the right group.
Often we join groups because of some of the people that belong to that group, because we like the way they look, because…
But with belonging always come the rituals. And the rituals are not always of our liking, but once we are part of the group it is harder to get out of them – peer pressure makes sure comply.
And that is why we should choose the group because of the rituals, choose the group because we want to do the rituals, because we want to be part of the activities.
The two best parts of joining a group because of the rituals – instead of the group or the people already in the group – are that we can meet great people that share some passion with you, and if the rituals are not what you expect you can always say this is not what I joined for and leave.