I trust you2012/11/10 - Author: Marco Neves - No Comments
When you say “I trust you” what are you really saying?
Because what I ear most of the time is “I expect you to do what I think you should do – or what I told you to do – and I will be really disappointed if you do something else” .
That is not trust, it is authoritarianism.
That is not the way to teach anyone what the right thing to do, it is just pointing and forcing your will.
Even if you’re right and what you expect is the right thing to do, it doesn’t explain why, it just points it. The next time the something similar happens, the next time a similar choice needs to be made, the trusted one is no better prepared to make a choice alone.
If someone is capable of understanding the meaning of “I trust you”, is also capable of making the right decision – even if with some guidance. Are you capable of asking a few questions and try to understand the reasons behind the choices – or saying “I trust you” is the best you can do?